Why Do People Return To Old, Self-Destructive Habits?…


I know this lady, who is a little ancy when it comes to recovering from an illness, always wanting to get on with her life a little too soon. Sometimes, this behavior has cost her BIG time.

But every time she gets a little better, she does the same thing.  I mean, what does it take to finally listen to the doctor and recover from an illness properly?

I would rather be laid up for 6 months, and recover permanently…than to be laid up for 4 weeks, get a little ancy, and do something destructive because I was bored (and yes, I’ve been there).

So why do people return to destructive habits, never seeming to learn?

I think it has to do with some level of control that these people want to have in their lives, maybe they lose that control, and only feel better when they have that control back…no matter how destructive it might be to their lives. In other words, having this control ends up being the death of them.

Learn to let go of that control people.  It really isn’t as important as you think, plus, letting go of it can actually provide a “freeing” feeling.  At least it did for me (I’m NOT a qualified psychologist or anything, so get whatever professional advice you deem necessary).

I just wish some people would learn to “let go” sometimes I guess.

Self Accountability

It’s no secret that a big hot-button for me is self accountability.

I’m not perfect when it comes to this…but I’m quite versed on the subject as a sort-of “success guru” to many business owners, and have made huge improvements in this area for myself personally.

But, I’m tired of seeing news, media, and other forms of reporting that focuses on blaming other entities and people etc… for our own problems.

When are we going to take accountability for ourselves on a more global scale?

In the U.S. especially, you can see examples of the lack of accountability from our litigious society and how it behaves.

(spilling hot coffee on the lap from a drive through window anybody?)

I mean, come on people…let’s at least do one small action to get started on the path to better behavior here…

When something goes “wrong”, instead of looking at what caused it…let’s first look at how we can do something different within ourselves.  Most of the time you’ll find the problem lies within ourselves…and solving that problem can solve a bunch of future problems that would have been created if we looked for the cause of the problem elsewhere first.

This sounds easy, but really, it isn’t…or more people would do it (and more people should do it).

So take the path less-traveled, and look at yourself and how you can improve yourself first…and your life will begin to improve as a result.

The Stuff We May Not Want To Hear

It’s a nice thought to believe we live on top of this big, fluffy marshmallow called life.  It’s nice to believe the government is there to protect us, and guide our countries through any perils that may come along.  It’s nice to believe that there are trustworthy people in that government (and that U.S., corporations don’t have a measure of greed involved in their decisions).

It’s nice to believe all that.

Here’s the stuff we may NOT want to hear, but if we don’t act on as a country (U.S.) and world community, we might head in the wrong direction (all my opinion only, I’m not a lawyer, financial advisor or a health professional, seek professional guidance at your discretion)…

  • We need to quit listening to mainstream media so much. This antiquated system of relaying “spun” information has way too much influence in the U.S. and worldwide.  Plus, negative news is what increases ratings, so that should tell you what they focus on.
  • Vaccines are a band-aid, they are NOT the solution. Our medical community needs to work on eradicating viruses, not just providing a temporary solution that entitles the drug companies to profits year after year.

The real disturbing trend unfolding with vaccines is that for the most part “mass-vaccination” has been proven ineffective, yet we continue to use and rely on that ancient methodology.  We continue to hear reports of “superbugs”, yet we continue to rely on this “cure” for disease.  Folks, we need  a different answer, vaccines aren’t it…period.

  • Small business owners need to step up, not step out. The news keeps spewing venomous poison that the “recession” is in control, unemployment is at an all-time high, blah, blah, blah…

Folks, if you’re a business owner, you need to step it up…not cower in fear of this recession. Big companies are not flexible enough to adapt, they just put their proverbial tails between their legs and “ride it out”…but they have the resources to do so.

Small businesses don’t have these resources. So don’t act like a big business…act like a small business, and adapt…starting now.  Quit listening to the news, and instead focus on ways to improve your situation by using the Internet to market, improving your marketing, reaching a different target audience, creating another product etc…

This world economy is counting on you, the small business owner (that group also includes me, but my businesses have grown over 20% in comparable sales per year, almost every year I’ve operated, so I know it’s possible for you too).

  • Self-accountability needs to increase, and the stupid litigation needs to decrease by a LARGE margin. Man this is a hot button for me, I’m sick and tired of people blaming other circumstances and people for their own shortcomings.

From a cup of coffee that was hot (go figure) and winning a lawsuit because that coffee spilled in her lap, to blaming the economy for losses to your income instead of YOU going out and doing something about it…we have a BIG problem in society here.

Along with this lack of self-accountability comes the sense of “entitlement” that we are owed some form of lifestyle just for being here (especially here in the U.S., which makes me both ashamed and want to vomit in my mouth).  We are NOT owed any particular kind of lifestyle just because we are alive.

Get off government “feeding bottle” programs as fast as you can, get training, get a better job, hell…I’ll just say it…make a better life for yourself, don’t expect it to be handed to you (it never will be).

The gluttony and “pork-fat” in the society we live in is disgusting people, let’s work together and make it lean meat. 🙂

Joe out…